Mum Bereavement
Funeral Etiquette for the Grieving
Its important to observe proper funeral etiquette during times of bereavement. A death of a family member or a friend can bring out the best and the worst in people. And while you might mean well, some things should be left unsaid when visiting a funeral or the home of those in mourning.
Visitors should refrain from saying things that might offend the family of the deceased. Saying that ?it was time for him to go,? ?he lived long enough,? ?it could have been worse,? and things like this can bring more grief to those left behind.
Parents who lost a child will not want to be reminded that their offspring died ahead of them. Nor is it comforting for them to hear that it was God?s will. ?You can have another one,? should definitely be avoided as well. A child who died can never be simply replaced by another.
It is proper funeral etiquette to remain mum with regards to the timing, appearances, and theology of the deceased. The death of a loved one is never a good thing, under any circumstances. Keep in mind it?s never ?the right time to die,? and no one has ?lived long enough? from the viewpoint of those close to them.
Speaking about religion, and God's will, is against good funeral etiquette as well. This topic should be left for the professionals, such as the priests and the ministers. This is usually the common mistake majority of those of us are guilty of violating proper funeral etiquette.
What a friend can truly offer is his or her sincerity, support, and comfort, during a time of bereavement. He should anticipate the different needs of each individual. The grieving process can be unique with each family member. It is an important part of funeral etiquette to allow the grieving parties to speak their minds out. Your role is to listen to them. They themselves might even say some things that should be normally be avoided, but it is their right to do so. They are struggling in finding answers for their loss. A friend should be there and be supporting. But the most important thing to do is listen. Keep your ears open.
The next thing to do with regards to funeral etiquette is to validate what the loved one has done for the deceased. Tell them how they cared and persevered during the hard times. A person might look strong and resilient on the outside but inside he might be suffering heavily. It helps him to be reminded of the good and helpful things he did while his loved one was still alive.
Proper funeral etiquette must be observed both at a funeral, and in the homes of those in mourning. Pay attention to those who are grieving, and learn how to approach each individual. The grieving process can be short or long. It depends on how the person takes it.
About the Author
Anna Williams is a webmaster, a blogger, a photographer, and a poet. Her blog, In Loving Memory Poems, contains funeral poems, poetry written in memory of loved ones, and poems of bereavement. You can also find bereavement gifts, memorial items, and similar items at her store, at Your Bereavement.
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